You Shouldn’t Need Positive Thinking
Throughout my years of being sick there were times when I would get very down, wondering if I would ever get better. During this time I would sometimes use positive sayings to try and get through rough times.
Looking back at those times I realize now that positive thinking and positive things that I was saying to myself was not what was needed. What was needed was to really find out why I was so sick with digestive problems. The fact that I needed to repeat positive things to myself was more of a symptom than a cure.
If you body and brain are working well there is never a reason to keep reminding yourself to calm down, be centered, stay in the moment, etc. A lot of well intentioned people trying to live with a “new age” kind of enlightenment often blame themselves for the state that they are in. Whether that state is mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, financial, relationship etc. The have accepted a concept that is in “new age” vogue. The idea that what happens to you is your fault. Not only is this concept logically incoherent, it is positively medieval.
During the dark ages there was the belief that bad things happened to bad people. A suppression if you will that was adopted by many religions due to it’s powerful force to make people behave as those in charge wanted them to. This was a time when logic such as “trial by fire” was applied. This concept held that in a disagreement a person that was telling the truth should be able to hold a red hot piece of metal in his hands if he was telling the truth, because god would be on his side.
Even though these concepts would see old fashioned or even archaic to us today, I have found from my perspective these ideas are still alive when people judge their health or their life situation. People often feel that they are sick because they are doing or did something wrong. Additionally because sickness and other struggles often go together they feel that they are responsible for their life situation.
I could go into the many ways that a feeling of responsible for one’s life situation is illogical. That would be a different article. Let me just say here that the sick people I work with are most often the nicest and bravest people I have ever met. The thought that they would feel that their illness is their fault, or that others would consciously or subconsciously blame them for their illness appalls me. If anything they tend to be more sensitive and caring than many “well” people that I know. I guess you could say that if they are more sensitive than it is their fault. But this would be like saying that it is a persons fault if glare were to damage their eyes because their eyes were just to sensitive. You can no more be too sensitive a person than you can see too well.
So what is needed when a person is sick is to get better, not to find ways to make yourself feel better about being sick, or anxious, or depressed. One of the amazing tools that I have used to see what is keeping a person sick is a test called Neuroscience. This test checks two things. It checks several saliva cortisol samples during the day to create a graph of how your adrenal glands are working.
The test also has a urine part. This tests Serotonin, 5HIAA, GABA, Taurine, Gutamate, Histamine, Glycine, PEA, Dopamine, DOPAC, Epinephrine and Nor-epinephrine. What this basically means is that this tests your brain chemistry for how strong are the gas pedal, brakes and steering. Imbalances in these brain chemicals can cause our bodies to act like there are no brakes, going into extremes of anxiety and inflammation with the slightest provocation. This can look like a situation where the body is all brake pedal. The helpful thing about these tests is that you can identify these two patterns that look the same but that have different approaches to correcting them.
Also we can see how the body is steering itself. Some of these brain chemicals are responsible for keeping the body in the middle of the road from the perspective of the immune system. If they are too low or too high the body can be more susceptible to infections or autoimmune disease.